Ok, so when I moved to San Antonio several years ago I met a girl who thought I may be a bit too picky in my choice of characteristics I look for in men. I told her I wasn't, but that I had many things I just didn't want to have to put up with for eternity. She told me I could have fifteen. She told me that a while back she made three lists - Have to Have, Want to Have, and Can't Have. Each list should contain no more than 5 items. I made those lists that day, but what I realized recently is that there are little things about guys that I don't like that just falls under the "annoying" or what I like to call "straight arrow" category. Let me explain what I mean.
Several years ago I was on a date with a guy when we decided to watch a movie. He had borrowed a c.d. case full of pirated DVD's from a non-lds roommate and as we were flipping through them we picked out a DVD that I had really been wanting to watch - so much so that my roommate had actually rented it and said I could watch it that same weekend. As we started watching the movie I could tell he was really uncomfortable. He then turned to me and asked if we could do something else because he did not feel comfortable watching a movie that had been pirated. I told him once again that my roommate had rented the exact same DVD and that it was sitting in my dorm room only a few blocks away - and that if he wanted me to go out in the blizzardy snow weather and get it I could, but that the movie sitting right in front of us was the exact SAME movie. He turned off the DVD and actually had the nerve to ask me to go get it. I weathered the storm and retrieved the movie and we watched it, but the whole time we were watching it I thought to myself how ridiculous his request was.
Now, don't get me wrong, I love this guy to death - he is still one of my dearest friends, and I hate to use him as an example, but I hope he can look back on this experience and laugh. I have since met many straight arrows and while I am glad they are out there, this is definitely on my "Can't Have" list. Where are all the normal guys!!!!????? In today's world it seems like guys are either "straight arrows", which is my nice name for them, or non-temple-recommend-holding, aren't-worthy-of-the-Priesthood, guys. And the worst are the ones that pretend to be straight arrows but have the most disgusting deep dark secrets - things that shouldn't even happen... ever - the last few guys I've dated fell into this category...
Anyway, I just wanted to vent about this... I'm in a man-hating mood right now I guess... haha, I don't think I could ever really hate men. Anyway, I am going to post two of my three lists... The "Want to Have" list is kind of personal/a little superficial....
Here goes...
HAVE TO HAVE:
1. A temple recommend - which includes a solid testimony of the gospel
2. Wants to have at least 5 kids (and is good with children)
3. Does his home teaching (this will show me that he is responsible and takes callings seriously)
4. A good credit score (trust me, I will check before I marry the guy)
5. A college education - or is well on his way to having one
CAN'T HAVE:
1. A guy who plays more than 1 hour per month of video games
2. A guy who has really hairy arms or back hair
3. A "straight arrow"
4. A guy who does not like dogs
5. A guy with a hot temper
So, call me picky - I don't care.... there have got to be normal guys out there - I am sure of it....
